Intro to Vanessa and LLAIA

 

If this is your first time here at LivingLifeAsIAm.com, let me introduce myself. My name is Vanessa and through LivingLifeAsIAm.com I hope to inspire and motivate you to live your #BestLife in your current reality.Now that you know what my goal is, let me give you a little more insight into who I am or who I was.

For as long as I can remember, I lived life day by day with a smile on my face at all times. If I was having a bad day or had a million things on my mind, no one could ever tell. I was always known as the always this “positive”, “happy”, “giving” person and I allowed people to take advantage of me in ways that I never realized.

Growing up I never wanted to upset anyone, let anyone down, or be a burden on anyone. You can say I was a “people pleaser”. I cared so much about what people thought of me and really valued their opinion of me, and of course, I wanted their perception of me to be positive. It got to a point in my adulthood that it really took a toll on me physically and mentally. But let me tell you…If I knew back then what I know now, I could be running the world.

As I reached adulthood, I truly felt like something was missing and I felt so empty. I went through a really tough time that gave me so much anxiety, and I would constantly be playing a reel of these questions through my head constantly.

  1. Am I good enough?
  2. Why Me?
  3. Is this where I am supposed to be in life?
  4. Am I pretty enough?
  5. Am I smart enough?
  6. Should I work harder?
  7. Why do they have such a better quality of life than I do?

It wasn’t until I got married, actually, it wasn’t until years into my marriage that I was able to just “Let Go and Let God”. Literally.

Mind you, I grew up going to church. Or shall I say, going through the motions of going to church with my family. I really never understood what was going on in church. I could never really follow what was going go on. I just knew that Jesus is the son of God, Jesus died on the cross for our sins, and I knew God spoke to me at the age of 10 and at that time I got baptized. And of course like most people growing up getting into the pre-teen and teenage years going to church and building my relationship with God was just not important as Cheerleading or being the best Dancer I could be.

It wasn’t until I met my husband that I would develop a whole new understanding of who God is, what Christianity really means, and who I am in the image of God. My everyday struggles slowly melted away as I grew my relationship with God, things in my life became so clear.

I will go so much deeper and open up much more as I share with you all how to live your best life where you are now.

I hope you enjoyed getting to know me just a little bit in this post. Through this blog/website, there will be support, fun, love, and all things positive shared weekly. There will be a few series that will be fun and for entertainment when you just need a break. There will be a few series sharing helpful information on how to get out of your own mind, how to be your best self, how to get the job that you want, how to start a virtual assistant business from home and be successful, etc.

I hope that as I begin to share with you, you will share with me and the other readers so that we can grow a beautiful and safe community for like-minded people.

If there is anything that you want me to write about or any questions that you would like me to answer please leave a comment below or email me at LivingLifeAsIAm@gmail.com

Hello and Goodbye, Time for something New

Goodbye VivaciouslySavvy.com and HELLO LivingLifeAsIAm.com!

It’s a sad, sad day, it’s time for me to say goodbye and farewell to VivacioulsySavvy.com *tear*. It’s been “real” girl, I am going to miss you so much…

VivaciouslySavvy.com is no more. When I started my journey of blogging, I felt like Vivacious and Savvy summed me up in two words. But as time has gone on, I have realized that I AM so much more and have so much to offer. I have grown up so much since I started blogging, and it is now time to move on and “grow up”. With that being said *drum roll please* my blog name is changing to…

Living Life As I Am

The new blog URL is www.LivingLifeAsIAm.com. This blog is a full-on Lifestyle blog centered around my life and my love for all things Faith, DIY, Beauty, Lifestyle, and Living the Life I have grown to Love. With this blog, I hope to help and inspire you to live the life you love and tap into your creativity along the way.

I hope you all enjoy the new look and the new content that is to come. If you have any questions that you would like me to answer in a blog post, have any suggestion, or would like to collab, please feel free to email me at livinglifeasiam@gmail.com.

 

 

Prudential #WomenInspired: Taking Control of my Financial Future

This is part of a sponsored collaboration with Prudential and DiMe Media. However, all opinions expressed are my own.

I was blessed with the opportunity to attend Prudential’s #WomenInspired event last Thursday September 22, 2016 by DiMe Media. And let me tell you…I was pleasantly surprised at how amazing this event was, and how much I learned about getting my finances together. Also, not to mention having the opportunity to meet the #MoneyMaven Patrice C. Washington and learn some amazing tips on taking control of my finances  (If you do not know who she is, you better google her!).

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The #WomenInspired event was a huge eye opening event for me. The first thing I learned as a woman who is currently building her brand is that I need to know my worth. I should never sell myself short when it comes to my current career and my blog. I also must know exactly what I bring to the table and be able to back it up and explain what it is that I bring for the price that I am negotiating.

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Second, I was the type of women in my marriage that allowed my husband to take on our finances. I completely trust my husband, but I know now that I need to be right there with him knowing what’s going on and doing research with him when it comes to investing and preparing for our financial future. So Ladies, get involved with the household finances don’t push it off to your husband. If you need some help getting started planning for your financial future reach out to a financial planner, you may want to try Prudential Financial to get started.

 

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Lastly, I have learned that mindset is everything. I do not know how many times I have said this in my blog and vlogs, “MINDSET IS EVERYTHING”. As you know I am a huge believer in personal development and positive thinking, but I never really associated your mindset with your finances. But I have learned that finances and mindset go hand in hand  if you are looking to be successful in your finances as well as life and business.

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Oh My Goodness! When I say I have learned so much and have been awakened to how important me as a women being in control of my finances is. I can’t even tell you how inspired I am to get it together. I met so many amazing women at this event and I have been inspired to start living in my passion.

So I challenge all of my Savvy friends to get inspired and start taking control of your finances and start planning for your financial future TODAY. Start where you are and start today!

Remember a Positive Mind = A Positive Life

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Why I Blog…

As I have gotten older, I noticed that I have become so shy and guarded when it comes to speaking my mind and being around people. I noticed in social settings that I would listen to conversations around me and want to jump in and be a part of the conversation, but was always to late. While the conversation was in full swing I would be having an internal conversation in my head basically analyzing the current conversation going on. I would be trying to figure out if what I had to say fit in the conversation or I would think that what I had to say people would think was “stupid”. So by the time I found the courage to speak up and get what I had to say out of my mouth, the conversation was over or moved on to the next subject. I really felt like I had to chose my words wisely and speak them in the appropriate time within  any conversation that I was in.

I started my blog back in July of 2014, well on July 22, 2014 to be exact.

I started my blog as a part of the “goals” that I set for myself in 2014;  and my major focus for that year was being vocal and allowing my voice to be heard, and the first major step I took was starting a blog. I read somewhere a long time ago that blogging can help you break out of your shell and learn to speak your mind with no fear or hesitation. Blogging has allowed me a personal platform for my voice, thoughts, idea’s, and feelings to be expressed in a “safe place”.

When I started blogging in my “safe place” it was solely a place for me to release and be creative. I did not realize how much I needed a place that allowed me to express not only my thoughts and feelings but my creativity as well. Starting this blog was such release for me and it is something that I truly enjoy, but *HUGE BUT* I slowly came to realize that other people were actually reading what I was posting. At first it freaked me out, but I started to receive some amazing feedback and inspiring emails from people that I didn’t even know. I even had one women reach out to me who was a real blogger (she actually has a career in blogging about things that she loves), and she let me know how much she enjoys reading my blog and invited me to be a part of an amazing community of other bloggers.

With the help of this women and other members of the blog community I started getting the courage to tell people that I “blog”. I really didn’t tell many people that I knew that I was a “blogger” in fear that they might judge me, not support me, etc. But if anyone asked, I let them know that I blog.

Lately; I have been going back and forth with myself in regards to taking the leap and fully sharing my blog with my friends, family, and the rest of the internet world, and maybe even turning it into something more.

I have come to the conclusion with the help of my husband and recent interaction with people that I see on a daily basis that I have allowed “FEAR” of being judged take my “safe place” away without realizing it. I was allowing fear of being judged and fear of negativity from others completely take over my space, which caused me to take a break from blogging all together for a few months. So how was I living a “FEARLESS” 2016 (my word for the year) if I had so much fear consumed around other people’s judgments, thoughts, and opinion of my words?

Thinking will not overcome fear but action will. – W. Clement Stone

I have made the decision to not be fearful, I am taking the leap to be “FEARLESS” with my blog and my voice. I really want to keep this space a positive space filled with support, love, and gratitude.

I will be posting my blog fearlessly on Friday August 26th for all of my friends and family to see.

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What Qualities do you look for in a Friend?

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As I am getting older; I find myself being extremely picky when it comes to finding friends who I actually call my friends, and who I allow to have the “Friend” title in my life. I have learned over the years that not everyone who you think is your friend is a “Real” friend. So at this point and time in my life, I do not allow anyone in my life that brings any kind of negativity. Sometimes when you are working on bettering yourself and trying to be in a positive place living a positive life, it is necessary to weed out anything or anyone in your life that is draining your positivity.

After being let down and disappointed by so many people that I thought were my “friends” or who I thought had my best interest at heart, has caused me to look at friendship differently than I have in the past. I have become completely guarded with my feelings, and I have built huge walls made of brick and titanium so that I can protect myself against everyone.

In the past I found myself being to open, giving, supportive, and loyal to friends who didn’t appreciate what I had to offer as a friend. I truly felt like so many people took full advantage of my friendship and really did not return the love that I had for them as my friends. I was that person in a friendship that when I felt completely comfortable, I would open myself up and I would do anything for those people that I called friends.

Today; it so sad to say that I currently do not have anyone in my life that I would call a “Friend”, don’t get me wrong I do have many acquaintances, just no one that I feel I can call a “True Friend”. I really do miss having a friend that I can talk to whenever, laugh with, hang out with, etc. I am always actively looking a “Real Friendship”; it just may take time for me to let down my walls with people that I meet. But if they are someone that I know that I can build a lifelong friendship with, then the walls will start to drop little by little and not as fast as they did in the past. Some of the qualities that I am looking for in a “Real Friend” are someone who…

  • Is Real, I have met enough fake people to know who is real and honest and who is not.
  • Is caring.
  • Is inspiring and enjoys life.
  • Has a positive attitude at least 80% of the time.
  • Can laugh.
  • Strives to do and be better.
  • Is trust worthy.
  • Is loyal.
  • Can have a cocktail or 2 or 3.
  • Is not judgmental of others
  • Has some of the same interests as me.

I know, I know, this may seem like somewhat of a long list. But this is the first time that I have actually sat down and thought about the qualities that I would like in a friend. All of the things that I am looking for in a friendship are qualities that I like to think that I offer in a friendship as well.

I believe that it is best to have quality in friends as opposed to the quantity of friends.

I would love to know what you look for in friends/friendships, so hit me on the snap and snap me the qualities that you look for in a friend/friendship.

SnapChat me @VivaciousSavvy

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Fearless in 2016

Be Fearless with Vivaciously Savvy

Hi Friends,

With the new year in full swing, I am already struggling to live up to my word for the year.

For those of you who don’t know, I am not the type of person to make New Year’s resolutions. I just do not believe setting New Year’s resolutions are realistic. Just because a new year is starting does not mean that it is the only time of the year that you can “start over”, set new goals, or start with a fresh clean slate for yourself. I fully believe that you can make a fresh new start and set new goals for yourself at any point in the year. You just have to make the conscious decision to make the change in your life.

Instead of setting New Year’s resolutions for myself, I chose to focus on a word for the year and do my best to define the word for myself and take actions in my daily life based on the word that I have chosen. And my word for 2016 is….

FearlessThis whole being fearless thing is so much harder than I thought. We are only a few weeks in to the New Year and I find myself struggling to release the fear, worry, and anxiety from my life. All I want to do is to be able to shake it off (as Taylor Swift “Shake It Off” plays in my head). There were so many events last year that contributed to my fear and worry being at an all-time high and causing me to have full blown anxiety. All I want to do this year is focus on releasing my fear, because in doing so I will be worry and anxiety free.

It’s time to Let Go and Let God! And I know through faith and focusing on gaining a greater relationship with God I know that through him there is nothing to fear.

So for those of you that are going through the same thing and wantto release the fear within, here are a few daily affirmations that I focus on throughout my day that help put me in a positive mind frame and help me to release any tension within my body:

  1. All of the muscles in my body are releasing and relaxing.
  2. I am free of anxiety, and a calm inner peace fills my mind and body.
  3. I will have a positive attitude and be hopeful and optimistic today. Those who do are the happiest and most successful people in life.

Also, for me it helps when I take time to do a bit of bible journaling or just journaling my thoughts and feelings.

If you have any great tips on living a fearless life please feel free to leave a comment below or email me at vivaciouslysavvy@gmail.com.

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