Why I Blog…

As I have gotten older, I noticed that I have become so shy and guarded when it comes to speaking my mind and being around people. I noticed in social settings that I would listen to conversations around me and want to jump in and be a part of the conversation, but was always to late. While the conversation was in full swing I would be having an internal conversation in my head basically analyzing the current conversation going on. I would be trying to figure out if what I had to say fit in the conversation or I would think that what I had to say people would think was “stupid”. So by the time I found the courage to speak up and get what I had to say out of my mouth, the conversation was over or moved on to the next subject. I really felt like I had to chose my words wisely and speak them in the appropriate time within  any conversation that I was in.

I started my blog back in July of 2014, well on July 22, 2014 to be exact.

I started my blog as a part of the “goals” that I set for myself in 2014;  and my major focus for that year was being vocal and allowing my voice to be heard, and the first major step I took was starting a blog. I read somewhere a long time ago that blogging can help you break out of your shell and learn to speak your mind with no fear or hesitation. Blogging has allowed me a personal platform for my voice, thoughts, idea’s, and feelings to be expressed in a “safe place”.

When I started blogging in my “safe place” it was solely a place for me to release and be creative. I did not realize how much I needed a place that allowed me to express not only my thoughts and feelings but my creativity as well. Starting this blog was such release for me and it is something that I truly enjoy, but *HUGE BUT* I slowly came to realize that other people were actually reading what I was posting. At first it freaked me out, but I started to receive some amazing feedback and inspiring emails from people that I didn’t even know. I even had one women reach out to me who was a real blogger (she actually has a career in blogging about things that she loves), and she let me know how much she enjoys reading my blog and invited me to be a part of an amazing community of other bloggers.

With the help of this women and other members of the blog community I started getting the courage to tell people that I “blog”. I really didn’t tell many people that I knew that I was a “blogger” in fear that they might judge me, not support me, etc. But if anyone asked, I let them know that I blog.

Lately; I have been going back and forth with myself in regards to taking the leap and fully sharing my blog with my friends, family, and the rest of the internet world, and maybe even turning it into something more.

I have come to the conclusion with the help of my husband and recent interaction with people that I see on a daily basis that I have allowed “FEAR” of being judged take my “safe place” away without realizing it. I was allowing fear of being judged and fear of negativity from others completely take over my space, which caused me to take a break from blogging all together for a few months. So how was I living a “FEARLESS” 2016 (my word for the year) if I had so much fear consumed around other people’s judgments, thoughts, and opinion of my words?

Thinking will not overcome fear but action will. – W. Clement Stone

I have made the decision to not be fearful, I am taking the leap to be “FEARLESS” with my blog and my voice. I really want to keep this space a positive space filled with support, love, and gratitude.

I will be posting my blog fearlessly on Friday August 26th for all of my friends and family to see.

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What Qualities do you look for in a Friend?

Friendship

As I am getting older; I find myself being extremely picky when it comes to finding friends who I actually call my friends, and who I allow to have the “Friend” title in my life. I have learned over the years that not everyone who you think is your friend is a “Real” friend. So at this point and time in my life, I do not allow anyone in my life that brings any kind of negativity. Sometimes when you are working on bettering yourself and trying to be in a positive place living a positive life, it is necessary to weed out anything or anyone in your life that is draining your positivity.

After being let down and disappointed by so many people that I thought were my “friends” or who I thought had my best interest at heart, has caused me to look at friendship differently than I have in the past. I have become completely guarded with my feelings, and I have built huge walls made of brick and titanium so that I can protect myself against everyone.

In the past I found myself being to open, giving, supportive, and loyal to friends who didn’t appreciate what I had to offer as a friend. I truly felt like so many people took full advantage of my friendship and really did not return the love that I had for them as my friends. I was that person in a friendship that when I felt completely comfortable, I would open myself up and I would do anything for those people that I called friends.

Today; it so sad to say that I currently do not have anyone in my life that I would call a “Friend”, don’t get me wrong I do have many acquaintances, just no one that I feel I can call a “True Friend”. I really do miss having a friend that I can talk to whenever, laugh with, hang out with, etc. I am always actively looking a “Real Friendship”; it just may take time for me to let down my walls with people that I meet. But if they are someone that I know that I can build a lifelong friendship with, then the walls will start to drop little by little and not as fast as they did in the past. Some of the qualities that I am looking for in a “Real Friend” are someone who…

  • Is Real, I have met enough fake people to know who is real and honest and who is not.
  • Is caring.
  • Is inspiring and enjoys life.
  • Has a positive attitude at least 80% of the time.
  • Can laugh.
  • Strives to do and be better.
  • Is trust worthy.
  • Is loyal.
  • Can have a cocktail or 2 or 3.
  • Is not judgmental of others
  • Has some of the same interests as me.

I know, I know, this may seem like somewhat of a long list. But this is the first time that I have actually sat down and thought about the qualities that I would like in a friend. All of the things that I am looking for in a friendship are qualities that I like to think that I offer in a friendship as well.

I believe that it is best to have quality in friends as opposed to the quantity of friends.

I would love to know what you look for in friends/friendships, so hit me on the snap and snap me the qualities that you look for in a friend/friendship.

SnapChat me @VivaciousSavvy

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Embrace New Beginnings

New Beginnings

Hey guys,

After a much needed mental break, I’m back…

I just wanted to give you all a quick update on what has been going on with me lately. For the last couple of weeks I have not been blogging as much as I would have liked too, and if you haven’t noticed there has not been any “Get Your Mind Right Monday” posts for the past few weeks (CRAZY, I KNOW!).

At the beginning of March there was a huge unexpected bomb dropped on me (and my friends/Co-Workers), I mean this came out of left field for me. I personally felt like I had been hit by a train physically and mentally and I was forced to make a decision as to what my next move was going to be for my family and I. I guess this just goes to show that you can’t get to comfortable in your current situation. I am a true believer that when God closes one door, another one opens with bigger and better opportunities.

One season of my life is coming to an end and a new one is beginning.

Don’t get me wrong, even though now I know that I am destined to accomplish great things in this next season of my life, my stress level had been off the charts for the last few weeks. I literally had to force myself to snap out of it, put a smile on my face, and take on the days as if everything was all good (I am pretty good at faking it until I make it). So I say all of that to say this, “I am only human”.

I was stuck in a mental rut, and it has taken me weeks to get back to a positive mindset. It has been so hard for me to stop focusing on what is happening in the present and focus on the positive that is to come in the near future (if that makes any sense at all). And I believe the reason for me having a “mental breakdown/blockage” is because I allowed myself to open up and get so comfortable with everything and everyone in my current situation, and I just have not been ready to let it all go.

So as I finally start to except that this season is over, I am slowly allowing myself to embrace the change and embrace all of the amazing opportunities that are coming my way. It is time to stop stressing and dwelling on the negative of the situation and really take my life head on and run with it in faith.

I am too blessed to be stressed!

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Get your Mind Right Mondays – Bring out the Best in you!

Start the week off right with a positive outlook on the week ahead.

If you get your mind right on Monday then the rest of the week should be easy breezy.

LIVE, LOVE, & ATTRACT POSITIVITY

 

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Get your mind right Quote for MONDAY: 

“Be with those who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you.”

Hello Beautiful People and Happy Monday to you,

I had such a wonderful low key weekend, I just wish that I had one more day just to chill and relax. Maybe I should have called in sick to work today {Just Kidding} LOL!

I thought I would start the week off with one of my favorite quotes:

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I am not sure who wrote it, but I found it on Pinterest from LoveLightCreative.com a while back and I used it as my lock screen image on my phone for a long time. Not sure why, but every time I read this quote I laugh so hard on the inside because 1. It is so funny to me and 2. It is so TRUE! As I mentioned in my very first GYMRM (Get your Mind Right Monday) post, I briefly touched on a situation where I allowed those around me to bring me down so far that it was so hard for me to bring myself back to life. Sometimes it is so easy to get caught up with people who are your “friends” but are secretly hoping you fail in life. Not intentionally but because they are miserable with themselves they naturally put that energy on you, and if you are around them like every day, you get sucked in to their negative pull.

So if you want to live a positive life and allow for positivity to penetrate your life; you should surround yourself with people who truly love and care about you and want to see you succeed in life, or surround yourself with like-minded people who are striving for the same goal or similar goals in life, business, or family as you are.

Let’s start the week by “being with those who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you”!

I hope you all have a VIVACIOUS week.

 

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