Intro to Vanessa and LLAIA

 

If this is your first time here at LivingLifeAsIAm.com, let me introduce myself. My name is Vanessa and through LivingLifeAsIAm.com I hope to inspire and motivate you to live your #BestLife in your current reality.Now that you know what my goal is, let me give you a little more insight into who I am or who I was.

For as long as I can remember, I lived life day by day with a smile on my face at all times. If I was having a bad day or had a million things on my mind, no one could ever tell. I was always known as the always this “positive”, “happy”, “giving” person and I allowed people to take advantage of me in ways that I never realized.

Growing up I never wanted to upset anyone, let anyone down, or be a burden on anyone. You can say I was a “people pleaser”. I cared so much about what people thought of me and really valued their opinion of me, and of course, I wanted their perception of me to be positive. It got to a point in my adulthood that it really took a toll on me physically and mentally. But let me tell you…If I knew back then what I know now, I could be running the world.

As I reached adulthood, I truly felt like something was missing and I felt so empty. I went through a really tough time that gave me so much anxiety, and I would constantly be playing a reel of these questions through my head constantly.

  1. Am I good enough?
  2. Why Me?
  3. Is this where I am supposed to be in life?
  4. Am I pretty enough?
  5. Am I smart enough?
  6. Should I work harder?
  7. Why do they have such a better quality of life than I do?

It wasn’t until I got married, actually, it wasn’t until years into my marriage that I was able to just “Let Go and Let God”. Literally.

Mind you, I grew up going to church. Or shall I say, going through the motions of going to church with my family. I really never understood what was going on in church. I could never really follow what was going go on. I just knew that Jesus is the son of God, Jesus died on the cross for our sins, and I knew God spoke to me at the age of 10 and at that time I got baptized. And of course like most people growing up getting into the pre-teen and teenage years going to church and building my relationship with God was just not important as Cheerleading or being the best Dancer I could be.

It wasn’t until I met my husband that I would develop a whole new understanding of who God is, what Christianity really means, and who I am in the image of God. My everyday struggles slowly melted away as I grew my relationship with God, things in my life became so clear.

I will go so much deeper and open up much more as I share with you all how to live your best life where you are now.

I hope you enjoyed getting to know me just a little bit in this post. Through this blog/website, there will be support, fun, love, and all things positive shared weekly. There will be a few series that will be fun and for entertainment when you just need a break. There will be a few series sharing helpful information on how to get out of your own mind, how to be your best self, how to get the job that you want, how to start a virtual assistant business from home and be successful, etc.

I hope that as I begin to share with you, you will share with me and the other readers so that we can grow a beautiful and safe community for like-minded people.

If there is anything that you want me to write about or any questions that you would like me to answer please leave a comment below or email me at LivingLifeAsIAm@gmail.com

What Qualities do you look for in a Friend?

Friendship

As I am getting older; I find myself being extremely picky when it comes to finding friends who I actually call my friends, and who I allow to have the “Friend” title in my life. I have learned over the years that not everyone who you think is your friend is a “Real” friend. So at this point and time in my life, I do not allow anyone in my life that brings any kind of negativity. Sometimes when you are working on bettering yourself and trying to be in a positive place living a positive life, it is necessary to weed out anything or anyone in your life that is draining your positivity.

After being let down and disappointed by so many people that I thought were my “friends” or who I thought had my best interest at heart, has caused me to look at friendship differently than I have in the past. I have become completely guarded with my feelings, and I have built huge walls made of brick and titanium so that I can protect myself against everyone.

In the past I found myself being to open, giving, supportive, and loyal to friends who didn’t appreciate what I had to offer as a friend. I truly felt like so many people took full advantage of my friendship and really did not return the love that I had for them as my friends. I was that person in a friendship that when I felt completely comfortable, I would open myself up and I would do anything for those people that I called friends.

Today; it so sad to say that I currently do not have anyone in my life that I would call a “Friend”, don’t get me wrong I do have many acquaintances, just no one that I feel I can call a “True Friend”. I really do miss having a friend that I can talk to whenever, laugh with, hang out with, etc. I am always actively looking a “Real Friendship”; it just may take time for me to let down my walls with people that I meet. But if they are someone that I know that I can build a lifelong friendship with, then the walls will start to drop little by little and not as fast as they did in the past. Some of the qualities that I am looking for in a “Real Friend” are someone who…

  • Is Real, I have met enough fake people to know who is real and honest and who is not.
  • Is caring.
  • Is inspiring and enjoys life.
  • Has a positive attitude at least 80% of the time.
  • Can laugh.
  • Strives to do and be better.
  • Is trust worthy.
  • Is loyal.
  • Can have a cocktail or 2 or 3.
  • Is not judgmental of others
  • Has some of the same interests as me.

I know, I know, this may seem like somewhat of a long list. But this is the first time that I have actually sat down and thought about the qualities that I would like in a friend. All of the things that I am looking for in a friendship are qualities that I like to think that I offer in a friendship as well.

I believe that it is best to have quality in friends as opposed to the quantity of friends.

I would love to know what you look for in friends/friendships, so hit me on the snap and snap me the qualities that you look for in a friend/friendship.

SnapChat me @VivaciousSavvy

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Learning To Love

I figured now is a better time than any to share one of my biggest struggles that I have been fighting to over come for the past few years.

Over the past 5 or so years, my body has gone through some major changes, and I have had the toughest time embracing the changes that have occurred. I am ashamed to say that I am one of those girls that only post pictures from the shoulders up, so YES I am like the selfie headshot queen!

Learning to Love

I have come to the conclusion, that I have spent way to much time dwelling on the stupid stuff. I am not the same girl I was in high school, people get older and change. It’s life. Now I must focus all of my energy on living the life that I love and not worrying about what everyone else will think of me and how I look. If you have a problem with me or the way that I look, then that’s your problem not mine!!!

Over the past few weeks there has been so much going on around me, it seems like so many people have past away and more and more people are being diagnosed with  cancer or some kind of life threatening illnesses. I am so thankful that I am very healthy physically and mentally and I have been inspired to live my life to the fullest with no regrets.

Yolo

So lets make a promise to live every day like it’s your last and get rid of any negativity that is holding you down.

 

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Nail Polish LOVE

I must admit, I have a bit of a nail polish obsession.

 Nail Polish Love - VSI was going through my extensive nail polish collection today looking for a nice light pink color to paint my nails, and I decided to use the Sally Hansen Insta-Dri nail polish in the color 160 Mauve It. Mind you this nail polish has been sitting unused in my collection forever. I have never really used Sally Hansen nail polishes as I was stuck on using a few of my other go to brands.

 With that being said, I am so glad that I decided to use this nail polish.  I must say I am loving yes LOVING this nail polish and the color. The nail polish goes on so smooth, it dries so quick, and it is very inexpensive,  I mean what’s not to love about that. This Sally Hansen Insta-Dri nail polish is the business *in my Wendy Williams voice*.

Just thought I would share, have  a Fabulous Saturday!

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Life is too short to…

Life is too short to...

 

Life is too short to…care about what other people think of you.

As I get older, I have come to the realization that I just don’t care *throwing my hand up*.  I don’t care about what other people think of me. I don’t care what people have to say about me. I don’t care if you don’t like the way I speak. I just don’t care anymore LOL!

There was a time in my life that I worried so much about these things. I cared so much about being what everyone wanted me to be, that I made myself physically sick. When I think back about all of the time I wasted trying to do and be what I thought was expected of me I can’t help but laugh.

I have learned that once you start letting it all go and stop caring and worrying about other people and their opinions of you, your life becomes so much lighter. I have found that I have opened the door for more positive people to come in to my life, and with more positivity and like-minded people comes happiness and more confidence.

I challenge you to stop caring about what other people think of you, and see how it impacts your life.

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Get Your Mind Right Monday!

Start the week off right with a positive outlook on the week ahead.

If you get your mind right on Monday then the rest of the week should be easy breezy.

LIVE, LOVE, & ATTRACT POSITIVITY

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Get your mind right Quote for MONDAY:

“If you want light to come into your life, you need to stand where it is shining.” 

Guy Finley

When I read this quote it reminds me of how grateful and thankful I am for where I am today.

Not so long ago, maybe about 3 years ago I was in the “dark” mentally and physically. I was surrounding myself with individuals that I allowed to take my “light” and my spirit unknowingly. You would think that someone who feels very strongly about the power of positive thinking could never let others take so much from you.

I don’t even know where to begin sharing my story, but for the sake of not boring you all I will get to the meat and potatoes of it all. I let people in to my life and circle that I thought were like minded people, in the beginning everything was “okay”.  It took me a while to notice that these particular people that I was spending a lot of time with were always negative and speaking poorly of other all of the time, but in the same breath claiming to be positive people. And as they became more miserable in their lives I could feel myself getting sucked in to their issues. At the same time my best friend was going through a difficult situation so I was dealing with her on a daily basis. Before I knew it, I could not shake the funk. There would be days that I could not get out of bed just because I was not ready to face the day, and days that I could not get myself to focus enough to get any work done. All I was doing was thinking negative and in doing so all I was receiving was more negativity in my life, in business and in relationships.

Finally over a year in to this, yes OVER A YEAR! I finally got so sick and tired of being in such a negative place that I sat down and talk with my husband about everything that was going on. And he reminded me that you become the people you surround yourself with the most. So I took a step back from everything and everyone and re-evaluated my life. I stopped hanging out with my so called “friends” who were supposed to be like minded and started getting back to my happy place. Once I removed all of the negative people from my life, everything started to change it was the most amazing thing I could have ever done.

If you want “light to come into your life”, surround yourself with people who truly live in the “light”. Be mindful of who you surround yourself with.

I challenge you on this beautiful Monday to find your LIGHT and shine 🙂

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