As I am getting older; I find myself being extremely picky when it comes to finding friends who I actually call my friends, and who I allow to have the “Friend” title in my life. I have learned over the years that not everyone who you think is your friend is a “Real” friend. So at this point and time in my life, I do not allow anyone in my life that brings any kind of negativity. Sometimes when you are working on bettering yourself and trying to be in a positive place living a positive life, it is necessary to weed out anything or anyone in your life that is draining your positivity.
After being let down and disappointed by so many people that I thought were my “friends” or who I thought had my best interest at heart, has caused me to look at friendship differently than I have in the past. I have become completely guarded with my feelings, and I have built huge walls made of brick and titanium so that I can protect myself against everyone.
In the past I found myself being to open, giving, supportive, and loyal to friends who didn’t appreciate what I had to offer as a friend. I truly felt like so many people took full advantage of my friendship and really did not return the love that I had for them as my friends. I was that person in a friendship that when I felt completely comfortable, I would open myself up and I would do anything for those people that I called friends.
Today; it so sad to say that I currently do not have anyone in my life that I would call a “Friend”, don’t get me wrong I do have many acquaintances, just no one that I feel I can call a “True Friend”. I really do miss having a friend that I can talk to whenever, laugh with, hang out with, etc. I am always actively looking a “Real Friendship”; it just may take time for me to let down my walls with people that I meet. But if they are someone that I know that I can build a lifelong friendship with, then the walls will start to drop little by little and not as fast as they did in the past. Some of the qualities that I am looking for in a “Real Friend” are someone who…
- Is Real, I have met enough fake people to know who is real and honest and who is not.
- Is caring.
- Is inspiring and enjoys life.
- Has a positive attitude at least 80% of the time.
- Can laugh.
- Strives to do and be better.
- Is trust worthy.
- Is loyal.
- Can have a cocktail or 2 or 3.
- Is not judgmental of others
- Has some of the same interests as me.
I know, I know, this may seem like somewhat of a long list. But this is the first time that I have actually sat down and thought about the qualities that I would like in a friend. All of the things that I am looking for in a friendship are qualities that I like to think that I offer in a friendship as well.
I believe that it is best to have quality in friends as opposed to the quantity of friends.
I would love to know what you look for in friends/friendships, so hit me on the snap and snap me the qualities that you look for in a friend/friendship.
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